The Claws are Out, The Teeth are Bared, The Catfight is ON!

I have been having some problems this year, mainly, people problems.... girl problems. Not the "girl problems"  you used to tell your gym teacher, I mean actual problems, with actual girls. Besides the New Years Fiasco which left my toilet broken in two pieces and a 3 year friendship floating dead in the water around it, I have a serious compliant about a co-worker, who seems to think she is 1. better than me 2. older than me and 3. scary to me.... News flash honey, it is I who is better, older, and scarier, she has not seen ANYTHING YET! I think I have been quite polite but when someone accuses me of lying, when in fact she is telling lies EVERYDAY, accuses me of stealing, when in fact, her clothes are WAY too big for me (get real sweetie, I am small.... you have to at least be a large) accuses me of having my own agenda, I will own up to that one, I do, but it's to separate my success from your failure, I am so annoyed by this GIRL, yes girl, that I can no longer hold my tongue.

How do you handle disputes when punching someone in the face on the playground is no longer an option? I.E like a Lady? Here are some tips:

1. Always be RIGHT- The quickest way to settle an argument is to be right, indisputably and objectively right. Your opponent will try to disprove you but will quickly fail when they realize they have no ground to stand on. Thus, victory is yours, stick your flag in it and move on, they will feel stupid enough within themselves and even stupider if people find out how worthless their argument was. Do not fall into the trap, if your opponent is too prideful to realize they have been bested, do not return their insults because going so low only makes you look bad. State your point, know you are right and don't reciprocate insults.

2. Have Backup- Hand in hand with being right, have backup, preferably someone higher ranking than you to use as leverage for proving your point. Make sure you keep someone aware of the situation, both of yours and their actions, BCC them on emails, record conversations, screen shot texts, whatever you have to do to make sure that the problem person's opinion is highly visible. This not only keeps you honest, but it covers your ass when the battle heats up and goes beyond your control.

3. Stay calm, cool and collected-  There is nothing more that a person with a terrible personality hates than a person with a calm personality. It drives them out of their mind, a smirk is icing on the cake. It says "This really doesn't bother me like you wish it did" even though it just might, never let them see you sweat. I can tell when someone is mad over text, their words are misspelled, there is punctuation all over the damn place, they send multiple texts in response to your one text. This is the perfect time, respond with all your words spelled correctly, punctuated properly, clear concise sentences in one text, this says "I am still of clear mind, you have not raised any emotion from me, you sound like a child throwing a temper tantrum". HAHA! Sit back and watch the fireworks as they do not know how to respond, they are used to their ridiculous emotion receiving a reaction, and when the opposite happens, they just get more and more desperate to evoke a reaction from you. Never give someone that privilege.

4. Public Forum- When you can no longer stand to play games with this person, take it to the streets! Address your issue with your backup, with their superior  their peers, your peers, get yourself a good audience and like an adult, bring up your issue with that person. Ask for suggestions on how you two can play nice again, or simply ask to never work with that person ever again. Either way, you should receive some sort of resolution, and if you have followed the rules, you should be good to go. You have stated your opinion in a professional manner, made your opinion known through evidence, and remained of stable mind, people cannot help but respect that. And if they don't, I say get new friends, co-workers, job, etc. whatever it is because you can only work with children for so long.

How do you handle adult catfights? Give me some suggestions!

MFL Football and Dance Team Try-outs

The Minor Football league is hosting football and dance team tryouts in the Washington DC area this Friday and Saturday!

I will be there on Saturday to cover the try-outs, stop by and meet me!

The MFL consists of 24 teams covering the Mid-Atlantic, Northern, Eastern and the Southeastern Region.The MFL provides opportunities for athletes who love the game and look to continue their playing experience beyond college in venues not available outside of university or professional levels. The MFL is not affiliated with the National Football League or its organizations. The Minor Football League (MFL) is a 501(c)3 non-profit organization and offers youth athletes an opportunity to develop, cater to a grass-root fan base and provides advertising opportunities to businesses while promoting and enhancing the game of football. Because the DMV area currently does not provide any organized athletic football programs for the local junior colleges, the Minor Football League provides a competitive platform for young athletes to compete in the game of football, while also serving as youth mentors and community service representatives during and after completing their junior college degrees. The Minor Football League provides integrity, commitment and excellence in all we do.

Adora Says: "The beauty product you should be using"

Looking over Yahoo! today I came across this article about eye creams. I didn't start to use a night cream until I was 22 but I think people should start when they are 18. The thing about a night cream is its heavier than day creams to give you lots of moisture, without effecting your makeup. You don't want to wait until you start to see wrinkles to start a night cream because by then its too late! As soon as you exit your teens, your skin starts get old, we are exposed to smog, smoke, dirt etc throughout the day and just isn't what it used to be, you just can't see it yet. The sun is the biggest factor in  keeping youthful skin, as in, AVOID IT! Avoid direct sunlight on your face everyday by wearing products with SPF ratings, it can be your foundation or your moisturizer, your going to wear those products anyways so you might as get the best kind. So when your out buying your eye cream, pick up a night cream, make sure you have SPF products and you will start to see and feel a difference in your skin!

The beauty product you should be using - Yahoo!.

Style With Salience photoshoot

This abstract shoot was so much fun! Chi Chi was the artist and the owner of the company, Style with Salience. She offers amazing skincare consultations, contact her today to get flawless skin! www.stylewithsalience.com Check out our profile on them here http://adorastylez.wordpress.com/people-and-companies-we-love/

2012 in review

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.



Here's an excerpt:

The new Boeing 787 Dreamliner can carry about 250 passengers. This blog was viewed about 1,800 times in 2012. If it were a Dreamliner, it would take about 7 trips to carry that many people.

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Yours Truely, The New Co-Host of the MFL EXPERIENCE

WOW! What can I say? Other than I am sooo pleased to announce that I am a new co-host for the MFL Experience and representative for the MFL, Minor Football League Organization based here in Washington DC!!!!

The Minor Football League:

As a 501 (c) 3 non-profit organization,the Minor Football league relies on sponsors to fund its programs and teams to help keep the organization running smoothly. The MFL provides integrity, commitment and excellence in everything we do. This season the league is doubling in size and expanding to 24 teams throughout the United States. The MFL seeks young men, aged 18 or over, in junior college or recent graduates for all positions. The MFL also seeks young women 18 and over to join our dance teams. The MFL also provides employment for people of all age ranges. To find out more please visit www.themfl.org

The MFL Experience:

Join me and my co-hosts as we host charity events, MFL fundraisers, interview players and break down the games!! Stay tuned for my first broadcast!

Dancer?



 

 

 

Experience the MFL!

Happy New Year Everybody! Party Going Etiquette?

Happy New Year!!

I hope you survived! ;)

I was able to bring in the New Years with my sisters this year and although I didn't have my designated Midnight Kisser, I still had fun... that is until we had to leave :( Sheree was sick, from the birthday party I threw her and a bug.

(I Love you to death Sheree)

So I want to know what's the protocol when you are out and partying, majority of the people you are with are having an excellent time, for that friend who maybe sick or a debbie downer in mood? They clearly tried to have fun by coming out, but now they are asking to go home, they don't want to dance or drink. Is it rude to ask that person to take a cab home? Or should everyone leave on account of one person?

I've been at the club and my friend has gotten unmanage- ably wasted... so I hailed a cab and sent her home! I don't want to sacrifice my night for your inability to function as a grown person. Sheree was sick, I asked her to come out, in hindsight she should have stayed home. But ALSO in hindsight, I had to leave a party on New Years with my friends and sister, at 1 am -_- just when things were getting good! If I had been comfortable enough to ask her, I would have asked her to take a cab, I didn't because she was my guest in my house and she was clearly sick.

I ALWAYS drive, unless we cab. I rarely get gas money, so if I am out and you are ready to leave, I honestly don't think it should be a big deal to ask you to take a cab home, don't ruin it for everyone, in reality you should have given me gas money or at least bought me a drink... Cab fare is nothing and if you live far away... wait until I am ready to go home, or drive your damn self!

Nothing annoys me more than someone who is demanding things from me when I am doing them a favor! This is why I always make sure I have a Plan B for EVERYTHING because I am not the type of person to just depend on others to take care of me... like seriously? Grow up and handle your business.

This brings me to another point about partying and friends, unfortunately someone got a DUI leaving my holiday party this season and as guilty as I feel for their license I feel even more guilty for endangering other people's lives by not asking them to stay. We are and we aren't responsible for each other and while you would hope most adults do know and respect their limits, after a certain point, they are chocolate wasted and need some extra help in the reasoning department. Even if you don't have the bed space, sleeping on a floor is much better than sleeping in a jail cell, offer your home to every person you host, and insist on people staying if they are obviously drunk.

As a party hostess, I do ask people to bring things to the party and I don't feel ashamed in doing so. I am risking my home, my neighborhood reputation, my belongings, and my sanity to throw a party for you, at least bring me a bottle of wine to relax with :) Never come to a party empty handed, those that know you come empty handed will resent you for partaking without contributing... I don't think anyone wants to be known as a mooch.

I'm curious to know, when you enter a party, do you expect to be introduced or do you wish to introduce yourself? I try to announce my guests as they arrive but after a certain point its just too much. Sorry if that leaves my wallflower friends to fend for themselves, but I like the notion of getting different people together and love to see a mingle. Small get togethers, your host should take the time to introduce you, big parties, have at it and meet as many people as you wish!

Don't break anything.... chairs, tables... toilets :)

Don't steal anything

Ask your hostess if you can invite people and remember, don't bring anyone that you wouldn't have in your house... IE gets wasted and fights like crazy etc... you won't be invited back

Over all, I think most of us are partied out, tired of shopping and 15 pounds heavier, so remember these tips when you emerge from your food coma!!